- Talking about wanting to die or to kill themselves
- Looking for a way to kill themselves, like searching online or buying a gun
- Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live
- Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain
- Talking about being a burden to others
- Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs
- Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly
- Sleeping too little or too much
- 食欲变化
- Withdrawing or isolating themselves
- Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge
- 极端情绪波动
- 赠送东西
- Feeling sad or depressed for more than 2 weeks
If you're worried a friend might be contemplating suicide, here's what you can do to help:
问
If you suspect a friend is depressed or thinking of suicide…ask. Simply asking will NOT give your friend the idea to complete suicide (a myth). Most depressed people have already had thoughts about death or suicide. They may actually be relieved you are asking questions like:
- I’ve notice that you’ve seemed down and have been keeping to yourself lately. 什么是错的?
- Are you thinking of death or suicide?
- Have you had thoughts of harming or killing yourself?
听
Active listening can be more helpful than talking. Take the person’s problem seriously. 75% of people who actually complete suicide hint they may have a plan to do so.
观察
A person who is drunk or high may be more likely to act on suicidal thoughts. Be vigilant to this reality.
保持冷静
不要惊慌. Not only will you keep a clearer head, but you may have a positive effect in terms of helping the troubled person articulate his/her feelings.
Be Yourself (Genuine)
Try to avoid “trite” comments, like “It will get better”, or “You have so much to live for.” These statements have been found to not be very helpful. Rather, speak out of genuine love and concern and show how much you care for the person.
是有爱心的
Even if your friend tries to put you off, stay in touch. 接触. Invite the person to do things with you. Remember…tell the person how much you care.
Encourage Professional Assistance
Encourage your friend to seek professional help. You do not have to handle the situation alone. If your friend goes to Lindenwood, contact:
The Student Counseling and Resource Center (SCRC) at (636) 949-4541. 从早上8点开始营业.m. 至下午5时.m., Monday through Friday.
Keep Your Friend Alive
If all else fails, contact 校园安全 at (636) 949-4911 or call 911. It’s better to have your friend angry at you for doing so rather than being dead. If you are not with your friend during the crisis, but in contact by phone or online, encourage the friend who is suicidal to call 911 on their own, or encourage the person to call one of the Behavioral 健康 Response Crisis 热线电话号码: (314) 469-6644; 1-800-811-4760; (314) 469-3638.
Address Your Own Needs
Helping a distressed friend can be stressful, draining, and frustrating. It may be useful for you to talk to a counselor in the SCRC. Remember you are not responsible for another person’s actions.
